Monday, March 1, 2010

Babysitters...... The Adventures in Finding One!!!


As a Mom of three kids finding a babysitter has been a challenge more than once and for more reasons than I can count! Recently though Jimmy and I sat discussing the fact that we hadn't been out on a date since we moved, which was last JUNE!! Yeah, tell me about it! We were both in NEED of some time with JUST us!!!

For those that have walked this same path, you know how tough it can be to find a RESPONSIBLE, RELIABLE, AFFORDABLE, young lady to watch your most important treasures! Tough is actually an understatement, sometimes it seems near impossible, does that combination of traits even exist in a single person? My friends and I have had many discussions in this very matter and we often discuss the "Not so good" experiences and the "decent" experiences with the local crop of teen aged girls to select from. I know that we have often had to settle for the one we know will watch the kids, interact with them and keep them alive and surrender to that fact that our house will look like a bomb went off when we return!! To be fair I have not used any of the girls here locally but before we moved we had found 1 PERFECT babysitter, but she was in high demand so you had to book her well in advance! Our children LOVED her, she played with them, kept our house clean and she was 17, she was the HOLY GRAIL of Babysitters!! Moving away was difficult knowing we would be starting again, thus the reason we had not been out since!!

There are several couples out here that participate in babysitting co-ops, which can be very handy, but as many of us found out a few weeks ago that doesn't always work out if you all want to go out together! We recently had several couples that went out to dinner and finding enough babysitters to go around got tricky and when ours was unable to do it a few days before we decided to use the gift of having a mature 11 year old in our own house!! HALLELUJAH!! I contacted a close neighbor and let her know that Lexi would be babysitting and made sure she would be around if there was a problem, we also weren't going too far away and figured this was the perfect opportunity to ease her in!! The night couldn't have gone better, Lexi knows the rules of our home, she knows when and how to put the other two in bed, which snacks they can eat, which movies they can watch and how to work the DVD player and TV, it really makes the fact that I started young in child rearing pay off, let me tell you!! It made the pain of babysitters past, who broke small appliances, talked on the phone, left HUGE messes, yelled at my kids, let them stay up until we got home etc. etc. etc. , dissipate and this whole new world has been opened before us! Evening walks, trips to the ice cream store, or Target, just the two of us, ahhhh, I get giddy just thinking about it!!

Now I realize that many do not have the luxury of having a built-in babysitter, and there will still be times when we won't want to leave Lexi on her own. So how do you find your babysitters? What Kind of bad things have happened? Do you have the PERFECT babysitter? Or do you just leave your kids with your Dog?

8 comments:

Mike and Alleen said...

Soooo jealous! I have a found a few that I don't mind, but the price is a little much. Having a baby doesn't help much either, I'm always nervous to leave him. Congrats on the new find! Lexi is such a cute responsible girl! I'd hire her!

Rachel B. said...

Only 9 more years for us! :( You are so very lucky to have Lexi!

Shelley said...

Oh my gosh, I am sooooo jealous!!! I cannot wait! Evan is six, we are only five years away!

Hey, thanks for all the blogging comments. Goodness knows I need the reinforcement! ha ha!

Janelle Ehat said...

I too am jealous!! Our oldest is a boy and although he is super helpful we probably wouldn't leave him with the kids by himself until he was a little older BUT if my daughter was home we'd leave them both in charge, even though she'd likely be the one doing all of the work, we'd b legally covered by having HIM home! Even still we are about 3 years from being about to do that! We are in a babysitting Co-op though and it has been a LIFE SAVER!! Yes it's true when we all want to go out together it gets tricky but it's SO WORTH IT to not have to worry about finding a babysitter and about worrying about paying them! So free babysitting every week from 6:30 to 10 pm is HEAVEN! So happy for you guys!

Rachel said...

L.U.C.K.Y. !!!!!

Me....not so much. Even if the boys were 11 I doubt I would trust them. Three boys alone without supervision is a 911 call waiting to happen.

millisa said...

i TOTALLY feel you!!! we had a girl in our church that was begging to watch our kids cuz she just adores them. so, we set up a date night and thankfully i asked what she charged, prior to her visit...get this; $30 per child, per hour!!!!!!!!!!! what!!!??? was she kidding me?? nope! $90/hour?! needless to say, we excused her from the job and told her we thought it was a bit ridiculous that she can charge that and it just was not in our budget. and that is when; like you, we discovered how Gage (12) was awesome with his little brothers and he has proven time and time again that he is great! so we too have been open to that new little world of quick trips to target, a run to get treats, and even a dinner close to home...see, having babies early was HARD, but it is pretty great now :)

Steph said...

Agreed! I have my Zack :)

Rachelle said...

I have been enjoying reading through your blog. And "getting to know you". Thanks for your comment on my blog last week. Sometimes it is nice to not feel like you are the only one going through difficult times. I guess maybe it is true "misery loves company"